Undressing Nightlife Dress Codes

During the summer months, my friends and I rarely stay inside the house. We can usually be found barhopping downtown. Having explored Toronto’s nightlife for over a year it is easy to stop noticing things. For example, how most of the attire for females at bars and clubs isn’t exactly what you would wear to church on Sunday. Being a student in downtown Toronto lead me to become unaware of the nightlife expectations placed by others and myself.

Fortunately, I had the opportunity to travel to Europe this summer. Also meaning having the opportunity to explore other cities’ nightlives. The first night out I was with a mid to late 20s crowd and we decided to go to a trendy rooftop club in the heart Rome’s l’Eur. It was packed. So packed that the line extended down the street. We were lucky as we knew someone to get us in (ayeeee connections!). Once in, it was like a club in Toronto except cleaner and less trashy. Also noticeable was how the women there were dressed. These girls were dressed like a girl in Toronto would be dressed to go to dinner or the movies and they looked super comfortable and happy with themselves.

Moreover, how they felt and looked translated in the way the opposite sex reached out to them. In Toronto, most males at bars or clubs act a certain way and let’s just say aren’t usually looking to get to know you the next day. In Rome, I was approached by a few guys (from the ages of low 20s all the way to late 20s) and I found –here comes the real shocker—that they were interested in actually getting to know my likes, dislikes, interests, etc. They weren’t touchy and extremely respectful. True gentlemen.

After recovering from those nights and getting some deeply deserved sleep, I started to think about what would happen if my friends in Toronto and I dressed the way the other girls and I did at clubs in Italy. I knew the reaction of other people, both guys and girls, would be completely different. So why is that? Why is it that in Toronto, if women don’t dress like pop culture tells them to, they are most likely not taken seriously, or completely ignored? Or sometimes not even LET IN to these bars and clubs? I mean Italy has pop culture too, less significant on a world scale but still very prominent in society. Is it because in Italy the culture expresses the idea that less make up and more clothing is more? Is it a result of the influence of the American film, music, and fashion industries on Canada, or more specifically Toronto? Is it because females think that they have to show it all off even if they don’t want to just to get any attention?

I was almost 100% certain that if I went to a bar dressed with the same outfit that I loved and felt great in on one of my nights out in Rome or Milan, I would be completely snubbed by the boys, the girls, the bartender, the bodyguards, etc. So, since I like being proven right I decided to test it out. So Friday night, my best friend Amanda and I both tested it out and dressed how we wanted to dress. That is in a nice pair of jeans, crewneck tank tops, and sandals and go to a hip bar downtown. We get to the front of the line and while the body guard checking out IDs didn’t say anything his eyes said it all. One half right for me. We go inside and as predicted we didn’t make as many friends and we would have if we dressed in our usual attires when we go out. However, the friends we did make are still in contact with us for future outings (very interesting, am I right?).

So at the end of this, what did I learn? People going to bars and clubs are going to dress in different ways and people should dress however they want. But how they individually want. Not because society, the bodyguards, the location, etc., tells us to. I learned this in Rome, Milan, and Toronto. In all these places I adapted to how society wanted me to dress and thus brought forth the social conventions associated to how I was dressed as a consequence.

Moral of the story: dress however the hell you want as long as you do you.

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A teaching class asks me to submit a letter of intent, and this is what I wrote

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As an educator-to-be, I have to confess that I use Google quite a lot. This becomes even more prominent during online discussion, where students pose their questions freely. Most of the time, I can provide accurate and succinct answers right on the spot; but more often, students’ questions left me in the dark. It is in these instances that I resort to Google for a clue. Initially, I felt ashamed and unqualified, because I could not justify how through years of training and teaching in Biochemistry, I am not yet ready to answer a sophomore’s seemingly frivolous question. With this dichotomy in mind, I start to understand my predicament.

I realize today’s students are different even from when I was an undergraduate (which is only four years ago). Not only is their mind more open, but also more connected to the surroundings. They are not satisfied by being told 1+1=2, they also want to know why, how, and when this rule does not apply. I can comfortably teach 1+1=2, but often become stumbled in front of the why, how, and when questions. This urges me to update myself more frequently and learn continuously. At the same time, I also need to know the art of interweaving these questions naturally into my teaching to provide a better learning outcome.

I also contemplate on the question: “if I can Google to find a clue, why can’t my students do the same”? I picked up a hint from the emails they sent me. Despite the fact that many of my students were born and raised in English speaking environments, their written messages in emails are uninformative and often misleading. My students often start their questions without providing me backgrounds to orientate, they do not check their spelling mistakes, nor do they re-read their messages before being sent (I know this, because they often sent me another email immediately after, saying “I mean ‘does not apply’, rather than ‘does apply’”). These observations do not mean to belittle my students, in fact they signify the essence of modern education: the specificity of the textbook information should serve to support the knowledge of criticality, creativity, and innovation. For educators, instead of aiming to pass students in a course, why not turn the aim into a means of developing student’s critical analysis, creative thinking, and innovative attempts? In a sense, to know how to write an informative email is more important than knowing the differences between glucose and galactose.

Of course, I wish my students remember everything I taught them, but that’s not realistic. One day, my students might not remember what amino acid leucine looks like, they might not know what the hydrophobic effect is, they might not tell DNA apart from RNA, but at lease they would retain the soft skills they began to develop in my class.

And this is my intent of teaching and self-improving!

S.X.

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