iDate: A Personal Account of My Venture into Online Dating… Part 2 – The Truth About Online Dating

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This is part 2 of a 6 part series about my personal experience with online dating. Click here to see other parts to this series. Stay tuned for more!

When I started this online dating adventure, I ran the idea over with a few of my friends and got a mix of reactions.

There was “Oh, I think this will be a very interesting scientific experiment. You should try to separate the variables and see how each one affects the success rate. For example, change your profile picture around or alter your height and tally the ratio of messages sent to messages received.” (Did I tell you all my friends are engineers?)

Of course, there was also “Ugh, I don’t know man… think about it: how many hot, intelligent, attractive, non-serial-killer chicks do you know who are single? Do you think they need to resort to online dating to find a date? You’re going to meet lots of ugly chick and freaks.” (Yeah, thanks a lot dude. Let’s see, if I did know a ton of hot, intelligent, attractive, non-serial-killer chicks who are single, we wouldn’t be having this unfortunate conversation right now. I’d be on a date.)

Actually, what my friend said above got me a little worried. I had no idea of what kind of people were on online dating, so I turned to Google, my go to guy when I “just need to know”. I looked up some blogs on online dating, to get the inside story, the personal account. I didn’t find much, but I did find this golden nugget of insight on Quigley’s Online Dating Blog (reproduced below, with full credit to Quigley):

Online dating body type translation table:

What the ad says Translation
Thin Could be anything from sickly anorexic to average.
Athletic Could mean the girl is a female bodybuilder, or it could mean she used a Stairmaster for all of ten minutes last month. Who knows.
Average A few extra pounds
A few extra pounds At least fifty extra pounds
Large Too big to fit in a Honda Civic. Only date if you own a full-sized car.
Rubenesque Imagine a chick in a Peter Paul Rubens painting, and then imagine what she’d look like if she gained at least fifty pounds.

I must admit, when putting down personal details in a profile, there’s a strong temptation to… err on the side of flattery, if you will. This Scientific American Mind article cites a study that found “online height is exaggerated by only an inch or so for both men and women but women appear to understate their weight more and more as they get older: by five pounds when they are in their 20s, 17 pounds in their 30s and 19 pounds in their 40s.” Well, I wasn’t really looking to date women in their 30s or 40s, so I figured I’d manage the 5 pound handicap somehow.

Off I went to browse the list of profiles. And much to my surprise, there were quite a few really great profiles. Take a look for yourself: pretty girl in short hair (I think women who look great in short hair are extra attractive), just plain gorgeous, great profile,
great opening line “I’ll steal your heart like I stole this internet connection!”. (sorry, I think you have to be logged in for the Lavalife links to work)

So, using my sentence construction skillz and my keyboarding skillz, I proceeded to hit on these eligible members of the fairer sex with my most magnificent messages. See below:

To: MISHA1121

Hi there odd girl

Your profile is really quaint and charming. Did you throw it together in a few minutes, or did it take careful contemplation to achieve such simplicity?

It definitely caught my interest and I’d love to hear more from you.

Either way, gorgeously written profile! It has eccentric literary charm down to a T.

Just my 3 cents. =)

To: STOLENCONNECTION

Hands above your heads

=) wicked witty opening line.

“I’ll steal your heart like I stole this internet connection!”

… and I’ll catch you like I caught that terrible cold last week.

I think it’s really cool that you’re in school to become a professional chef. Sometimes, I seriously contemplate the possibility of becoming a chef (chef or architect, actually). Hm… I’m curious, are there exams at school? If so, what are they like? (are they cook-offs a la iron chef?)

Your brief profile definitely caught my interest. I’d love to know more.

And the result of my smooth online macking? Find out next week on iDate! Go to Part 3 >>

10 comments for “iDate: A Personal Account of My Venture into Online Dating… Part 2 – The Truth About Online Dating

  1. August 10, 2007 at 11:23 am

    I am strangely enthralled by this quest.

  2. August 11, 2007 at 10:45 am

    JP, this is awesome. I fully encourage you in this endeavor. If nothing else, this is guaranteed to be a great blog series. (i.e. If you end up dating a NOT((hot)AND(intelligent)AND(attractive)AND(non-serial-killer))* chick, the whole internet is here to laugh with you.)

    *or, if you prefer (NOT(hot))OR(NOT(intelligent))OR(NOT(attractive))OR(NOT(non-serial-killer))

  3. JP
    August 11, 2007 at 8:48 pm

    Hahaha, thanks for the encouragement guys!

    (P.S. *now* do you believe me when I say all my friends are engineers??…)

  4. Girlslife
    August 12, 2007 at 6:15 pm

    Hm, have you considered that men might be threatened by hot, intelligent, attractive and non-serial-killer women? since they might feel insecure to be with them so they choose to date the one that is not so hot, not so intelligent, not so attractive and not non-serial-killer. So it is possible to find a hot, intelligent, attractive, etc etc women online…..
    Just thought i challenged the idea a bit for your next entry.

  5. Natasha
    August 13, 2007 at 12:42 pm

    It seems like this online dating stuff is starting to become less taboo. I listed an apartment on craigslist recently, and was a little surprised when somebody responded with a link to their plentyoffish proifle (so I could learn a little more about them).

  6. Gloria
    August 13, 2007 at 3:01 pm

    Note desirable chicks are hot AND attractive. But not smart as well as intelligent. So much pressure!

  7. Danielle
    August 14, 2007 at 1:37 am

    Just a tip, girls usually like it when you cite something in SPECIFIC from their profile in your message to them. Your message came off slightly generic, as there are many guys on these sites who ‘mass mail’ and send the same message to various girls, altering maybe one or two words. My expertise is as an okcupid veteran, met some of the nicest and nerdiest people I know through it.

  8. Ke
    August 16, 2007 at 1:15 am

    Haha…keep it going…

    Look for an email (in lieu of a letter since you are in Japan) soon coming your way!

  9. Ke
    August 16, 2007 at 1:17 am

    And who says ALL your friends are engineers?!

  10. February 6, 2008 at 12:15 am

    What a terrific series. I loved every word. Now I am off to read the rest…

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