Comments on: iDate: A Personal Account of My Venture into Online Dating… Part 6 – The Finale, Epilogue, and Ending Notes

By: JF

JF — Fri, 11 Sep 2009 02:22:18 +0000

This is a fantastic article. Well written, realistic, and oddly humble. Online dating is quite a bit of work for guys, since as you described you go through stages of selection, advertising (e.g. smiles), throwing the sales pitch, and securing the deal. It all seems like a lot of work, considering you can go to the local cafe and hit on any girl sitting alone. Of course, the rejection element, more particularly public rejection is what we all fear. I’ve used a mix of both methods, and I really couldn’t argue which one is better. There are positives and negatives to both.

The main advantage of online is the increased selection. As a graduate student the odds of finding someone on the same page in a bar is minimal, while you can actually search for that online.

It worked for me though.

By: Vee

Vee — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 00:22:05 +0000

Thanks so much for sharing your experience with us; it made for a really great story. I’ve been online dating for about a little less than a year, and it was fun at first cuz I tend to be a bit shy, and I’m not really into the club/bar scene at all. But the whole thing got tiring real fast (I think I might look into the whole club/bar thing, after all lol). My very first online date early this year was with this guy that I ended up dating for 5 months, and the two of us were kinda like H&M that you mentioned. lol Although we’re not dating anymore, it was a good experience. It never hurts to try something new–you might learn something from it!

Anyway, good luck with your dating ventures, and I hope you find that awesome girl that you’re seeking.

By: maria

maria — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 18:50:16 +0000

That was just awesome! I loved the experiment!

Thank you for sharing!

I hope things start looking up for you in the dating department! Next time you meet someone new perhaps you could show her this article to break the ice:D She will def have a good laugh and see your amazing personality shining though in this little piece.

Good Job!

By: Pete

Pete — Sun, 22 Jun 2008 15:57:15 +0000

Yo, good read. Very well written. And you confirmed the beliefs I had with online dating.

I’m in a similar situation. I’m a computer scientist, a degree which doesn’t teach you human interaction — a trait very important in not staying single.

I’ve tried online dating, but I gave up in less than a month: too much work involved to get replies.

By: Victoria Wang

Victoria Wang — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 05:36:17 +0000

Loved reading these. Hilarious! Sounds like it was quite the adventure.

By: AIMRA

AIMRA — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 06:07:12 +0000

Hey JP ,
Great article man, If I had to write my experience , I wouldn’t write it better than you did.
Pretty much I had the same results like you. I am an engineer, but, I am more aggressive and less sarcastic than you ( or so do I think, and I wish I have your writing ability and sense of sarcasm).
So, I chose to write an aggressive and to a degree sarcastic profile . I also chose not to contact girls and have them contact me first. The result …. I did get around 15 to 20 e-mails in the first 6 months and had 4 or 5 dates and 1 GF. out of it. After that nothing ……and for a very long time.
You are right , real interaction in real life is much better and more rewarding.
Thanks for the laughter JP

By: Amy

Amy — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 09:43:19 +0000

Ha ha, “Hunger: No I won’t please hold”. Hi-larious.

Hope you’re meeting lots of interesting, smart and funny women in Japan. They’d be the lucky ones.

By: starlight

starlight — Sat, 08 Sep 2007 00:42:05 +0000

Very well written and engaging! Usually I’m not a sucker for dating-related articles but you had something quite novel and interesting to say. It was refreshing! Kudos!

By: Kobe

Kobe — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 23:59:38 +0000

great series, JP. Well done.

By: Keely

Keely — Fri, 07 Sep 2007 21:23:01 +0000

i will totally go speed dating with you. HAHAHA!